Ruby's t-shirt is my life motto. I thought I was the introvert-est introvert until I met my husband, so we also are a barrel of fun. Our nightly ask is "do you want to talk to me tonight, or just sit in the same room and do our own thing?" *shrugs* It's love, I suppose. ;)
I feel this! Cory seems more and more "peoply" of the two of us, but he also has fewer words than I do. I'm definitely more of a verbal processor. And feel like I have to drag conversation out of him at times. (And I'm sure he sometimes wishes I would slow my roll a bit. Ha!)
Oh my, yes. I'm off the charts on introversion, plus I'm a 5, so. Yet I LOVE speaking to crowds, and I'm a pastor/speaker/writer, so that is what I do. It's really funny--people who know me but have never heard me speak come up to me afterward and say--"Um, who are you?" I also hate groups, so books discussion groups, small groups, groups of friends more than 3--too much, and I feel sidelined because I can't talk and things go too fast for me to go deeply into anything. Also, I want Ruby's shirt. However, I deeply respect Silas' food choices. And your perfect day.
Sidelined is a good word for it! I feel it in different ways. When it comes to book discussions or sharing opinions, I have to sometimes force myself to shut up.
I love this so much! I can't wait to read Holley's book. The first book about introverts I ever read was Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain. I finally felt understood! Large quantities of tea while sitting in my house all by myself is my favorite.
“Me (44): Drink two cups of tea on the couch in my jammies in a completely empty house. Stare at the sky. Tidy up while listening to a podcast. Read. Eat a delicious meal (cooked by someone else) with my family.”
☝️ Sure sounds more like me😀 I’m an introvert with a daughter who is an extrovert.🙂
I consider myself an introvert, but/and I’d totally choose Cory’s day. My favorite part of my week at this point in my life is (most) Saturday mornings Ben takes the boys to work outside- he loves having them with him- I have a quiet house and I get to decide what I do. Usually it is cleaning and listening to 90s country music. (By the way, the music was good at GBCo last night, but I was there to meet up with my girlfriends for our first girl’s night since March. 😁
I am definitely an extrovert yet I need alone time. I'm a social 8w7. People and relationships energize me and light me up; yet I need a break from them. I haven't figured it out in the binary system of extrovert/introvert but alone time is self-care for me (but it doesn't energize me). Does that make sense?
I come alive around people. I walk away feeling rejuvenated and fulfilled. I don't feel that when I'm alone, yet I need alone time. It's weird ha.
I have not always needed alone time, I don't think. In college, I was with people almost constantly. But as a child and the only daughter with my own room, I wonder if I got my alone time naturally without having to try; now as an adult with community and responsibility, I have to intentionally make space for it - yet it doesn't energize me. But I need it.
Cory's day sounds like the perfect balance for me. Yet I can totally be game for a Silas day - just not always!! I'd need a Shannan day if I've been immersed in chaos - sounds like the perfect snow day routine after a chaotic January in the schools.
Family of introverts here too. My perfect day is city-based. Quiet space in an empty church, mooch the second hand book shops and charity shops, check the museum/art gallery, coffee, afternoon movie matinee (and if there's no-one else in the screening, JACKPOT!) and home. Perfection for my wife is more in nature. Once as her birthday treat, we went for a day long autumn Dartmoor walk and had a cream tea picnic huddled against the wind.
By the way, has anyone else here read 'Elizabeth and Her German Garden' by Elizabeth Von Arnim? Its introverted, feisty, funny and utterly wonderful. Think lots of you may enjoy it.
We are always stuck between city/nature. I love both! My perfect day would probably include some of both. More probably, finding a garden in the midst of a city.
Thank you for the book recommendation. My library doesn't have it, but I'll check elsewhere!
We have the same situation over here, too...two very introverted parents, two very introverted kids, and two “give me all the people” kids. I appreciated this post a lot. Gonna need to read that book, gonna need Ruby’s shirt.
Ruby's t-shirt is my life motto. I thought I was the introvert-est introvert until I met my husband, so we also are a barrel of fun. Our nightly ask is "do you want to talk to me tonight, or just sit in the same room and do our own thing?" *shrugs* It's love, I suppose. ;)
I feel this! Cory seems more and more "peoply" of the two of us, but he also has fewer words than I do. I'm definitely more of a verbal processor. And feel like I have to drag conversation out of him at times. (And I'm sure he sometimes wishes I would slow my roll a bit. Ha!)
Oh my, yes. I'm off the charts on introversion, plus I'm a 5, so. Yet I LOVE speaking to crowds, and I'm a pastor/speaker/writer, so that is what I do. It's really funny--people who know me but have never heard me speak come up to me afterward and say--"Um, who are you?" I also hate groups, so books discussion groups, small groups, groups of friends more than 3--too much, and I feel sidelined because I can't talk and things go too fast for me to go deeply into anything. Also, I want Ruby's shirt. However, I deeply respect Silas' food choices. And your perfect day.
Sidelined is a good word for it! I feel it in different ways. When it comes to book discussions or sharing opinions, I have to sometimes force myself to shut up.
I want Ruby's shirt, BTW
Definitely an introvert. Push myself out the door to church. Only like people 1 or 2 at a time.
I love this so much! I can't wait to read Holley's book. The first book about introverts I ever read was Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain. I finally felt understood! Large quantities of tea while sitting in my house all by myself is my favorite.
Yes to all the tea!! And I've heard great things about Quiet. Holley quotes it a few times in her work.
“Me (44): Drink two cups of tea on the couch in my jammies in a completely empty house. Stare at the sky. Tidy up while listening to a podcast. Read. Eat a delicious meal (cooked by someone else) with my family.”
☝️ Sure sounds more like me😀 I’m an introvert with a daughter who is an extrovert.🙂
I consider myself an introvert, but/and I’d totally choose Cory’s day. My favorite part of my week at this point in my life is (most) Saturday mornings Ben takes the boys to work outside- he loves having them with him- I have a quiet house and I get to decide what I do. Usually it is cleaning and listening to 90s country music. (By the way, the music was good at GBCo last night, but I was there to meet up with my girlfriends for our first girl’s night since March. 😁
P.S. I would NOT study Greek in the evening.
Whyever not??? :) (Typing on my laptop so I don't have emojis, but insert appropriate options here.)
He said he saw you there! :)
I am definitely an extrovert yet I need alone time. I'm a social 8w7. People and relationships energize me and light me up; yet I need a break from them. I haven't figured it out in the binary system of extrovert/introvert but alone time is self-care for me (but it doesn't energize me). Does that make sense?
I come alive around people. I walk away feeling rejuvenated and fulfilled. I don't feel that when I'm alone, yet I need alone time. It's weird ha.
I have not always needed alone time, I don't think. In college, I was with people almost constantly. But as a child and the only daughter with my own room, I wonder if I got my alone time naturally without having to try; now as an adult with community and responsibility, I have to intentionally make space for it - yet it doesn't energize me. But I need it.
Cory's day sounds like the perfect balance for me. Yet I can totally be game for a Silas day - just not always!! I'd need a Shannan day if I've been immersed in chaos - sounds like the perfect snow day routine after a chaotic January in the schools.
Curious if anyone else can relate!
Family of introverts here too. My perfect day is city-based. Quiet space in an empty church, mooch the second hand book shops and charity shops, check the museum/art gallery, coffee, afternoon movie matinee (and if there's no-one else in the screening, JACKPOT!) and home. Perfection for my wife is more in nature. Once as her birthday treat, we went for a day long autumn Dartmoor walk and had a cream tea picnic huddled against the wind.
By the way, has anyone else here read 'Elizabeth and Her German Garden' by Elizabeth Von Arnim? Its introverted, feisty, funny and utterly wonderful. Think lots of you may enjoy it.
We are always stuck between city/nature. I love both! My perfect day would probably include some of both. More probably, finding a garden in the midst of a city.
Thank you for the book recommendation. My library doesn't have it, but I'll check elsewhere!
Major introvert. The first t-shirt I bought when the pandemic hit says "I was social distancing before it was cool.
I could spend all day reading, drinking tea, napping, and sitting on the deck to watch the birds.
We have the same situation over here, too...two very introverted parents, two very introverted kids, and two “give me all the people” kids. I appreciated this post a lot. Gonna need to read that book, gonna need Ruby’s shirt.