Thank you for your explanation of the two sides. I have been dealing with this lately with some family members and their feelings about my transgender child. It can seem so harsh to people when you draw the line but there are some things that I can’t stand in the middle of the sides. A side has to be picked and stood by. Thank you for your words around this
Thank you for sharing this, Jessie. This example is why I struggle so much to even navigate the conversation. I completely agree with you, there are lines that must be drawn. Sending so much love to you and your family!
“…there are not “two sides” to many things. When one side hurts people, it isn’t a side. It’s difficult to not give a million disclaimers. Some things are non-negotiable.”
Thank you for this! I’ve been feeling this but unable to succinctly articulate it. You did so perfectly.
"There’s so much to feel angry and heartbroken about. Despair has never looked sexier. We’re going to keep diving in, staying alert about the world we’re in, educating ourselves - not as experts but as thoughtful neighbors, and searching for those glimmers of rest and goodness - the counterweights - to help keep us moving forward for the long haul."
This resonates! I need to remind myself regularly that there are counterweights.
Finally catching up on emails so I know my comment is late, but thank you for your words as always. I wrote down "Mutual understanding does not equal mutual agreement" on a notecard to put by my desk (not your first appearance in my notecards!). I'll be thinking about that idea for a while. I needed to hear it. <3
You’re so consistent and eloquent in the messaging around these matters I’m in awe as usual. Also I’ve never seen Big Night and that feels like a problem to solve.
LESLIE! If I could, I would drive to Cali to watch with you. It's a must! Themed dinner mandatory! (We didn't get around to it last weekend but bumped it to the upcoming weekend.)
My uncomfortable space absolutely gapes in the votes-differently arena. And I’ve been wrong in assuming that “all of one” always means “all the way over there.” And yes, it’s embarrassing to even admit that my brain chooses these words. They perpetuate the “two sides” idea. I really do want to understand why it feels right to post a flag with swear words along the same route school buses travel. There’s personal property, but collectively, all of us are stakeholders in community. Can we try to own being better together?
Gah, it's so messy. I feel so many different ways about all of it. I think I'm just becoming more curious (mystified?) by the political divide you reference, along with other things. It was helpful for me to read somewhere on the 'gram last week, "Listening does not equal agreeing." (Maybe Dear Sharon McMahon?) I think that summarizes where I find myself sitting right now.
I needed this today. I’ve had some challenging conversations in the last few days. Learning and listening and remaining curious. It’s hard but good work.
Thank you for your explanation of the two sides. I have been dealing with this lately with some family members and their feelings about my transgender child. It can seem so harsh to people when you draw the line but there are some things that I can’t stand in the middle of the sides. A side has to be picked and stood by. Thank you for your words around this
Thank you for sharing this, Jessie. This example is why I struggle so much to even navigate the conversation. I completely agree with you, there are lines that must be drawn. Sending so much love to you and your family!
“…there are not “two sides” to many things. When one side hurts people, it isn’t a side. It’s difficult to not give a million disclaimers. Some things are non-negotiable.”
Thank you for this! I’ve been feeling this but unable to succinctly articulate it. You did so perfectly.
"There’s so much to feel angry and heartbroken about. Despair has never looked sexier. We’re going to keep diving in, staying alert about the world we’re in, educating ourselves - not as experts but as thoughtful neighbors, and searching for those glimmers of rest and goodness - the counterweights - to help keep us moving forward for the long haul."
This resonates! I need to remind myself regularly that there are counterweights.
FWIW, I plan to keep reminding all of us. ;) I'm so glad it resonates.
Finally catching up on emails so I know my comment is late, but thank you for your words as always. I wrote down "Mutual understanding does not equal mutual agreement" on a notecard to put by my desk (not your first appearance in my notecards!). I'll be thinking about that idea for a while. I needed to hear it. <3
You’re so consistent and eloquent in the messaging around these matters I’m in awe as usual. Also I’ve never seen Big Night and that feels like a problem to solve.
LESLIE! If I could, I would drive to Cali to watch with you. It's a must! Themed dinner mandatory! (We didn't get around to it last weekend but bumped it to the upcoming weekend.)
My uncomfortable space absolutely gapes in the votes-differently arena. And I’ve been wrong in assuming that “all of one” always means “all the way over there.” And yes, it’s embarrassing to even admit that my brain chooses these words. They perpetuate the “two sides” idea. I really do want to understand why it feels right to post a flag with swear words along the same route school buses travel. There’s personal property, but collectively, all of us are stakeholders in community. Can we try to own being better together?
Gah, it's so messy. I feel so many different ways about all of it. I think I'm just becoming more curious (mystified?) by the political divide you reference, along with other things. It was helpful for me to read somewhere on the 'gram last week, "Listening does not equal agreeing." (Maybe Dear Sharon McMahon?) I think that summarizes where I find myself sitting right now.
I needed this today. I’ve had some challenging conversations in the last few days. Learning and listening and remaining curious. It’s hard but good work.
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